For the ladies... Something about men.

Oprah wrote this about men…

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

2. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

6. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”.

8. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.

9. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better”.

11. You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

12. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

13. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

14. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

15. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

16. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

17. If something bothers you, speak up.

18. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

19. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

20. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.

21. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

22. Never let a man define who you are.

23. Never borrow someone else’s man.

24. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

25. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

26. All men are NOT dogs.

27. You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two way street.

28. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

29. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary. ..not supplementary.

30. Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

31. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

32. Never move into his mother’s house.

33. Never co-sign for a man.

34. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

35. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.Share this with other women and men (just so they know)…

Ridiculous

QUOTED FROM yahoo_news.

<< LONDON (AFP) - - A British woman is to divorce her husband after discovering he was having a virtual affair within the online game "Second Life," British media reported Friday.

Jane Doe, 28, met her husband John Smith within the game in May 2003, and six months later, she moved into his home in Cornwall, southwest England.

The couple married in July 2005, while their "Second Life" avatars Dave Barmy and Laura Skye -- younger, slimmer versions of their real-life selves -- also held an online ceremony for their virtual friends.

After a rare break from the computer, however, Doe returned to find her 40-year-old husband in an intimate, albeit virtual, position with an online prostitute within "Second Life", which she said was the "ultimate betrayal".

"I was so hurt," she was quoted as saying in The Times, adding that theirs was a "very serious marriage".

"I just couldn't believe what he'd done. It's cheating as far as I'm concerned, but he didn't see it as a problem and couldn't see why I was so upset.

"He said I was just making a big fuss and tried to make out it was my fault for not giving him enough attention."

Second Life is an online role-playing game with more than 15 million users, in which players can create virtual avatars and interact with other gamers, or the environment.

The game has its own virtual economy, in which online currency can be exchanged for real-world US dollars, and several major businesses have set up "branches" within the game, while others operate entirely within it.

According to the Daily Telegraph, Doe claims that Smith is now engaged to the woman he was having an online tryst with, despite never having met her.

She has, meanwhile, found a new love, through fantasy online role-playing game "World of Warcraft". >>

Married over a game, and getting divorced over a game. Life is pretty much a game to those people, isn't it?

We cannot change the cards we are dealt, only how we play the hand.